Recovery Is Built Upon Accumulated Experience Of Cookouts
Most people suffering from addiction do not understand belonging. They long for it, but they do not know how to initiate it or how to engage, clean and sober, as part of a group. They need to be taught how to make friends at a cookout.
Often, in early recovery care, the recoverer becomes arrogant and cocky and therefore unlikable in a misdirected attempt to bully his way into belonging, while attempting to cover up his insecurities.
Over time in recovery care, through the accumulation of guided experience, the recoverer learns not just how to recognize and address his dysfunctional emotional, social, and behavioral responses he also learns how to be a friend among friends. As the accumulation of supervised experience helps the recoverer build interpersonal skills, self awareness, and confidence, the person we love also learns to look out for and to empathize with every new guy who struts cockiness into his first recovery cookout while really shaking with terror beneath the arrogant facade. This earned empathy on the part of our loved one is an interpersonal awareness with its own rewards.
Long term rehab allows for productive staff intervention, experiential recovery practice, concrete guidance, the development of individualized behavior modification strategies, and growing self-awareness. Long term residential drug recovery uses structure, repetitious recovery education, peer support, and consistent reinforcement to help our loved one recognize vulnerabilities while learning to refrain from acting upon those impairments. The investment of time spent in long term recovery allows the recoverer to build skill, confidence, experience, and a personal history in recognizing and withstanding the ABCs of addiction.
If you are interested in delving deeper into the science of addiction, the American Society for Addiction Medicine goes beyond the ABCs, offering a frightening description of the damage caused by addiction to crucial areas of the brain: the nucleus accumbens, anterior cingulate cortex, basal forebrain, amygdala, cortical and hippocampal circuits, frontal cortex, andhippocampus. The information will have you packing enough clean underwear for a 24 month stay in a residential recovery community.
A less technical and more human description of the challenges faced by those new to recovery is posted on the – no kidding — White House Office of National Drug Control Policy (ONDCP) Recovery Branch blog. Chief of the Department, Peter Gaumond explains that:
Early recovery brings reawakened awareness of the harm one caused oneself and one’s family and friends during the course of the addiction. It is also a time when the brain and body are still actively recovering from the effects of addiction. Those in early recovery are relatively new at learning to experience, process, and manage feelings and to function in social situations without the use of a substance. Alcohol or other drugs may have served the recovering person as a social lubricant during the early stages of their use, helping alleviate social anxiety and feelings of not fitting in while simultaneously lifting their guard, making it easier to speak and act spontaneously.