Most often the rehabilitation/treatment process for alcoholism begins in a hospital setting, known as a detox. Detoxification from alcohol, particularly when it has been ingested for a long period of time in large amounts is extremely dangerous. Most men sense that the detox process is going to be very unpleasant, sometimes frightening and very uncomfortable. This intuition is not wrong. Delirium tremors, high blood pressure, heart attacks, seizures often accompany the detoxification process.
So the journey to freedom from alcohol needs to be acknowledged as a courageous step. However it is simply just a step. One does not unlearn the well cultivated behaviors that accompany alcoholism in a week, or a month – or sometimes even a year. And the solutions to managing life’s problems, as most people know, are never as instantaneous as the relief the alcoholic gets from taking the first drink.
The newly sober man will resist a men’s Maine Alcohol Rehab center. Or any long-term treatment rehab center, in Maine or anywhere else for that matter. It is not an attractive solution though it is the most effective solution. Most everyone freed from the physical effects of alcohol will want to return to their lives and “fix” the damage.
Less than 9% of those who leave a detox on their first time remain sober for an extended period of time. Certainly that percentage is increased with those individuals who seek support in the halls of Alcoholics Anonymous and 12 step programs. But that success rate is tripled when an individual seeks extended care alcohol treatment, or along-term, residential alcohol rehab.
There are only a few Maine men’s alcohol rehab centers. Most are co-ed and also relatively expensive compared to the Riverbank House, in Laconia NH.
What Happens in a Men’s Alcohol Rehab?
It is safe to say that every alcoholic seeks detox and then long-term alcohol rehab because they seek to stop their self-destructive drinking and behaviors. Though their drinking has a profoundly destructive effect on family, friends and employers the alcoholic continues to drink against his will. Likewise his destructive behaviors continue to elicit unplanned, undesirable consequences elsewhere in his life. One of the fundamental qualities of recovery is balance.
All of us require balance our lives. If the alcoholic is to survive this extended care men’s alcohol rehab needs to cultivate and nurture a balanced life. So having a “life out of balance” is not an option for an alcoholic. Alcoholics typically drink for affect.Most people drink for affect. But the alcoholic ignores the destructive effects of his drinking and chases the immediate calming and pleasurable effect that occurs when drinking.
Family, friends and employers all see the irresponsible behavior of the alcoholic. The men’s residential alcohol rehab seeks not only to identify and explore his shortcomings and the destructive effects his drinking has on his environment. But the alcohol rehab, operated effectively, seeks to renew and revive, and/or develop the higher qualities of responsibility and accountability, patience and tolerance, compassion and generosity, and empathy for others. This is part of the balance.
Why the Riverbank House Men’s Alcohol Rehab?
Entering into our alcohol rehab recovery process, each of us must first surrender to the idea that we can drink like normal people. Normal people drink with impunity. Alcoholic drinking is characterized with tremendous suffering. In order to cease our self-destructive behaviors, our seclusion and isolation from others, we must first come to grips with an open inventory of our past. This is a necessary but most often, very unpleasant part of our journey. In order to know where we are, we must responsibly acknowledge from where we have come.
To restore our values, to discover, establish, and nurture new values we must take action. The Riverbank House (Extended Care) Men’s Alcohol Rehab Community is firmly grounded in the 12 step program of Alcoholics Anonymous. It is broadened and supported by shared spiritual principles of many other religions. For example, the “12 principles of Buddhism”, daily meditations, daily readings, yoga and self-discovery activities are requirements.
Every house member is supported by a Recovery Coach who provides direct attention and assists the individual to work the 12 steps in a serious and thorough effort. Likewise the Recovery Coach assists that person to identify, uncover and rediscover those qualities which speak to their highest selves .
The creation and the discovery of our more principled, higher parts of ourselves – our compassion and generosity, our patience and tolerance, in our responsibility/accountability – are not concepts. They are activities and require action. This is the perspective taken at the Riverbank House.
The four phases of the house bring this “student of life” to increasing levels of responsibility and accountability – and the natural autonomy and self-monitoring that comes from doing it successfully. Phase 1, the 30 day phase is highly structured. Phases two and three seek to deepen our commitment to ourselves and to our community and to begin creating a vision for our future. Discovering or rediscovering our educational and career goals; our vision for our future is also a part of that effort. The goal is to reintegrate into society only as quickly as our readiness allows.
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